Last week I went over one of the changes that begin to occur as a person heals. This is the state of being in the “Observer”. Another stage of a person's healing that can be a little disconcerting is when the person is changing so fast that everything about their life seems different. This is the main indication of knowing they have entered “No Mans Land”.
“No Man’s Land” is usually very uncomfortable for most people. As they have moved into the observer they become more aware of their interactions with others. Sometimes established relationships will change dramatically as the person becomes more aware of the unhealthy ways they have related in the past. Many times significant relations with family and friends will shift and the person sometimes makes the comment, “How did I get here?” This is one of the most common comments I hear when a person is in this stage of their healing. They are seeing their world differently and the old ways the dis-ease spoke through them are leaving them with a new perspective.
Sometimes they will report that their physical surroundings do not seem the same; that friends have changed; their family may seem different. When I investigate how they are feeling sometimes with their new awareness they will report that they have never quite seen their life so clearly before, but it is uncomfortable nonetheless. The reason for the uncomfortable feelings is that as they change, the old ways do not apply anymore. They know that they cannot go back and the future has not yet revealed itself; it can be a little scary for some. It is necessary as the homeopath to guide them through this delicate time. Explaining the healing process and where they are is essential. Share with them the hope of new possibilities. As the old ways die it can feel like a death has occurred and a grieving process will happen. Support them through this as best you can. Be very careful about changing the remedy at this time. The remedy that got them this far will be the remedy that will get them out as well. Do not give a standard grief remedy like Ignatia or Natrum Muriaticum. It could really upset their healing unless it was this remedy that got them to “No Mans Land”.
This time is the best opportunity for a person's deepest healing and change. The future is uncertain and the past cannot be returned. This leaves them in the present. It follows Herring’s law of cure as we heal them from the present to the distant past. The present is the only place we can really do the healing and since it is forever the present moment, “No Mans Land” is a wonderful place to be. It can be very freeing for the person if they can remain supported and out of fear. How the homeopath understands this state and can explain to the client what is happening will help them tremendously.
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